Anonymous Compliments

Everyone loves a good compliment, right? I designed this little project to share some positive energy and to encourage the flow of kind thoughts in order to give us all (me, included!) a break from negative thinking. I’ll admit, when I’m stressed or haven’t slept enough, I can be pretty cynical, and especially under these conditions, my brain defaults to downer thoughts (thank you, depression). I do, however, know that when I compliment someone, or when someone compliments me, I feel better. I told myself I wanted to compliment people more– strangers, friends, acquaintances, and anyone in between. I also knew that setting a vague goal for myself, like “giving more compliments,” wouldn’t be the most effective method of achieving said goal; I needed something a little more in-your-face and concrete. 

So, I came up with this idea:
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The “jar” is actually an empty Folger’s coffee container (if you couldn’t tell :-P), and the explanation is written on the inside of one of a million unused Thank You cards I have sitting around the apartment. I decided to put this “jar” in my place of work– Qdoba! Over Christmas Break, my boss purchased a community board, which had only 2 random flyers on it. Why not make use of the board, help myself achieve my goal of giving more compliments, encouraging others to do the same, and spread some positive vibes in the process?

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The little colored slips of paper on which people write their anonymous compliments were actually just divider pages separating all the documents sent from the copy center to the lab I work in. Instead of throwing them away, I used them for my little personal community project! 

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So… most of these were written by my coworkers and their friends, BUT there are a few compliments from actual customers! At least it adds some personality to our store and fosters kind thinking, at least to some extent!

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The two in the middle were actually written by customers. The majority of the board at this point is anonymous compliments to Qdoba employees, which wasn’t my intention; it was to get people to compliment anyone! Did I not explain it well on my little directions card? Oh well, the overlying purpose was to spread some positive vibes, and I think I accomplished that.

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The compliment at the top of this picture is one I wrote for a specific customer. He always orders his food very politely, and takes the time to ask each of us on the serving line how we are doing on that particular day. It’s kind of difficult to be cynical when you come across someone well-mannered and thoughtful. I also wrote it to remind myself that the simple act of interacting with someone polite can relieve stress, which encourages me to speak more politely and take the time to ask someone how their day is going. I feel as though with our generation, our sense of community is disappearing; technology replaces human interaction. I, too, am at fault of this!… another reason why I do these little community-building things– to force me to positively interact with other people.

In order to encourage more customers to participate, I was thinking of putting the names of those who participate in a drawing to win a Qdoba gift card. However, this might take away the anonymity of the compliments, because I’d at least need the name and e-mail address of whomever participates so I can contact them if they win. I also don’t want people not participating and just providing contact info for the drawing. Any suggestions?

Nutrition and the Community

So this week, I worked in Penn State’s foods lab for “Cook Like a Chef” camp, in which kids aged 11-13 (mostly scholarship kids– their household income needs to be below a certain amount) learn the basics of cooking from the basics of all the food groups– grains, fruits and veggies, fat, protein, and dairy. 

PSU nutrition students (such as yours truly) got to begin the lessons with brief power point presentations on the food group(s) of the day. Following this, the kids usually did some sort of taste testing (of different breads, oils, unusual vegetables, milk & milk alternatives, etc). Most of the lesson was the actual cooking portion.

At the end of each day of camp, all of the food was placed in the front of the room, buffet-style, and the kids got to eat all of the creations that they made. There was always leftovers to take home. 

The purpose of the camp is to teach younger individuals (who are starting to make their own decisions regarding food) how to cook food and have fun doing it so that they may use the skills learned to be better informed consumers, and go home and have their parents follow suit. The kids always leave fed and eager to show their parents the creations they made. 

Today was the final day of camp and we had a reception to which all the kids’ families were invited. I was eager to meet the one boy’s mom because he was a 12-year-old boy who was absolutely considerate and overall just a total sweetheart, something you don’t come around that often. I commended his mom for raising such a great kid.

At the end of the reception, each of the kids got their own individual awards. Even the ones who had the mentality that they were “too cool” for the camp had smiles on their faces when they got their awards. Of course, being an oversensitive female, this made me want to cry.

Some of these kids come from homes or environments in which they are told or treated like they won’t amount to anything, or they are ignored or get very little praise or recognition. These are the kids who grow up feeling like they can’t do anything great, but in an environment such as this cooking camp, they’re part of a group, they accomplish things, and are rewarded in the end.

When I was younger and still deciding on what I wanted to do with my life career-wise, I knew one thing: I wanted to help people. Whether its being a teacher, a doctor, or a counselor, I just wanted to help. After being fascinated with weight-loss and overcoming an eating disorder, I realized that I could study nutrition and help people, whether its helping people reach their weight loss goals, counseling eating disorder patients on how to nourish their bodies again, or teaching kids how to cook and feel good about themselves. I absolutely love every part of it.

Have a lovely day everyone! Wishing you health & happiness!
Love,
Marilee

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P.S. I took this photo this week during camp, this quotation was written on the wall of the HUB parking deck at Penn State