Your Body is Not the Problem. Society is.

So many of us think about the parts of our bodies that we would like to change. It doesn’t help that we are bombarded with messages both subliminally and overtly in our technology-laden world and part of a culture that is grossly superficial.

I’m a firm believer in the following statement:
“Love the body you have, so you can have the body you love.”

By that I mean if you are making dietary changes and increasing your physical activity because you want to look a certain way, you’re doing it wrong.

Believe me, I did it. If you want to live a healthy lifestyle that includes taking care of your body, nourishing it properly and giving it the movement it needs, then you will reap many benefits– both physical and psychological.

However, if you are looking to achieve your “dream body,” because you feel that once that happens, the rest of your life will just fall into place, then my friend I’m sorry to say you have a long road of dissatisfaction and longing ahead.

Exercise should not be a punishment for the food you eat. And eating should not be seen as sinful or something to feel guilty about. We all need food which is comprised of nutrients that help our bodies and minds function to their highest potential. Some foods are more nutrient rich (fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, nuts, and seeds) . Other foods are more energy-rich (Sugary foods, fried foods). Some foods are both nutrient and energy rich (Avocados, nuts, fatty fish, olive oil). A healthy diet is comprised of a combination of these types of foods, with most foods being nutrient-rich with a few energy-rich foods interspersed.

My wish for everyone I care about (which is basically everyone I meet) is that we learn to love the bodies we have. They are the only bodies we’ve ever had, and we will never have a different one. Once we learn to love the vessel in which we live, then we will treat it with respect. From looking at ourselves from a standpoint of respect and love, we will appreciate all that it can do, and we will find joy in strengthening it, challenging it physically and providing it proper nutrition.

I urge everybody to refrain from talking negatively about their bodies. It promotes our culture of superficiality and further supports the notion that we must all strive to achieve something that may not even be within our genetics to achieve. Instead, be the bolder person and say something positive about your body. Everyone has something. Help me be part of a movement that challenges the norm of negative body-talk as an impetus for change. Let’s promote a culture of individuals who live balanced lifestyle because we care about ourselves.

 

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Age is a state of mind

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I can’t tell you how many times I hear, “Oh, I can’t do that– I’m too old.”

Excuse me? Too old? You are never too old to improve your health. Not only is the scientific proof, but I’ve seen it happen, both in my personal life and my professional life.

My Godmother, my aunt, just turned 60 last week. She drives, teaches yoga, is in the process of fixing up and selling her house, has 4 grandkids that she takes care of and plays with, she dances (many different types of dance, may I add) and she still finds time for fun, and herself. One of her yoga clients is a 73-year-old woman who was previously on oxygen. After training and meditating with my aunt, she no longer needs oxygen. When she talked to her doctor about this, she said, “I don’t need oxygen anymore, because Marlene (my godmother) taught me how to breathe.”  Oh, and my aunt is a breast cancer survivor who has been in remission for 15 years. She also is extremely independent– she’s single and doesn’t feel the need to search for a new man.

Her sister, another one of my aunts, just turned 63 and is also still in control of her life. Her husband suffered a stroke, and she lost her oldest son a few  years ago. Does she choose to sit in her house and let her health fall to pieces? No, she doesn’t. She still takes care of herself, her house, her yard and spends time with her two granddaughters. She looks fabulous, and she still smiles and laughs.

Growing older is absolutely NO excuse to stop taking care of yourself. If anything, it’s an opportunity to illustrate how incredibly resilient humans are.

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At the personal care home where I work, we had our 3rd annual “Senior Prom.” The seniors dressed up in suits and dressed, were served h’ors deuvres and they danced. Many of them had the thought in their heads that “they’re too old to dance.” Many of them were in wheelchairs. Did they dance? Of course they did! They didn’t get out of their chairs, but that’s no excuse to not dance and have a good time! I danced with a few of the residents who were on foot and one woman kept saying to me, “I don’t know how to dance!” Just because you don’t know dance steps, doesn’t mean you can’t dance! I feel like dance was created to express yourself and just move to music. Maybe it’s off beat a little bit, but who cares! 

You are never too old to improve your health, dance, or have fun. Health and happiness is for anyone of any age. It takes effort and change to improve your current state of health and happiness, but it certainly is possible.